Hope you are doing well and have enjoyed your first week of the year! Have any of you given up on your resolutions yet? This year I haven’t really taken any as I never upfill them but I do have goals that I hope to achieve throughout the year. First of all I want to learn how to code, because I love technology and I’d love to create my own app or something. I’m also planning to learn a new language (Spanish and Japanese are on my list). But most importantantly, I’ve decided to try to overthink less about my decisions.
It’s not that easy. Overthinking is not something you necessarily decide, it comes on its own and it’s very hard to handle on some days. I’m one of those people who has a very happy personality stuck into this dark soul. Some days I manage to let the happiness take over but there are always moments when you just want to curl up on yourself in your bed and not be a part of the world for a little while. Just being on your own to think about stuff is good too, it’s part of who we are and it’s necessary to find ourselves. I’m quite an independent person so alone time is definetely something I need, there’s just moments when it’s good, others when my mind is just eating me up.
So I’ve decided that 2017 is going to be the year where I try to work on myself and on my own happiness. Personally, I always work on the basis that others happiness is more important than my own, because in a way, seing other people happy makes me happy even when I don’t get what I wanted. I keep that state of mind but I’m trying to not overthink every decision I take. It goes into simple things such as saying what you have on your mind to a specific person or sending that text that you don’t know if you should send. I’ve decided that if I have something to say, unless it’s going to hurt someone, I should just say it because I have nothing to lose. Do you ever have that one question you want to ask someone but don’t dare too because you don’t want to bother them?
Asking those questions can only help you move forward and actually know what a situation is. It sets things in place and stops your mind from overthinking as you know the exact answer. Most of the time, overthinking is there because you’re unsure on a situation and don’t know how to look at it. The mind is going to overthink every possible outcome of what you are doing. So asking where you stand or getting more information on what you are working on or what you are doing with a person puts your mind more at ease, setting some sort of balance on the near future.
I don’t know if it’s going to work, baby steps are always the way. For now, it has helped me on somethings I was having trouble with in my life. There is still a long way to go, but I cannot change who I am. Overthinking is always going to be a part of me, I’m just trying to release it’s pressure this year (:
For my Fashion Friday post, here is some of the things I either bought myself in December or got for Christmas. I love this jacket I got from my mom for Christmas/birthday. It has those big pockets which makes the jacket very interesting and the belt accentuates your waist. It has this look of something you would wear in the last century, being quite miliary shape while accentuating your feminine attributes with the belt and the feminine colar.
These jeans have a fake leather look which I like, the stripes on the lower thighs also makes the legs seem a bit longer, which no one would complain about! They’re also quite comfortable. I usually wear them to go out at parties where I don’t want to wear a dress or skirt, but do occasionally wear them during the day too.
These are my mom’s shoes but I’m always allowed to borrow her shoes when they’re new so that they don’t hurt her feet afterwards!
I think I put those jewellery in my last blog post too. There’s the Tiffany necklace my sister gave me for Christmas/birthday. Love how discrete it is while still managing to complete the look.
Jacket: Dries Van Noten
Shoes: Dries Van Noten
What do your new years resolution look like?
Love, Jen xx